Is your happiness more important than Others?

Mill states that "happiness is pleasure in the absence of pain." Morally good actions are done to produce happiness. I definitely agree and disagree at the same time with Mill. I agree because, no one wants an action or decision to make them miserable or unhappy in the long run. The common goal of many people is happiness. The reason I disagree is because, you can have a life with pleasure and a life with pain at the same time. A world with pleasure and no type of pain is not a world we are living in today. Pain teaches us lessons, it makes us appreciate things more. A life where pain and pleasure coincide together makes you both happy and appreciative of things you have. A life without either one is boring. Furthermore, in the reading Mill uses the example of the Martyrs who give up their happiness for some kind of "greater end." The greater end for martyrs are the happiness for other people. If we had more caring souls in the world today who though like this, the world would be an entirely different place. According to Mill the Utilitarian's standard for judging an act is the happiness of all people, not of the agent alone. Basically they believe that a person should not value his own happiness over the happiness of others. To me this shows the selflessness of the Utilitarian's culture, that they do not think of themselves. They think more of the good of the people, and what kind of aspect it will have on them. I do agree with what the Utilitarian culture believes in when it comes to putting others happiness before your own, because people should think of others before themselves , but that is not the world we are living in today.