In these few classes we have discussed the good and how you know/consider what is good and what is not good. Babies learn what their parents consider 'the good' and 'the bad'. From then on, they use that as their own basis of good and bad.
The discipline you receive is your training, per se, of how you perform your life choices. I remember as I was growing up, that when I was put in time-out, whatever I did to be in that position was bad. So, if there are parents who do not discipline their children or help them understand morals, the child grows up not necessarily knowing what good and bad truly are.
While I was still in elementary school, one of my friends and I were on a play date with our mothers. We were on the play ground and there were woodchips that we started throwing at the ducks that were around. My mother instantly told me to stop, and of course i listened, but my friend's mother never told him anything and he continued patronizing the ducks. Eventually one of them attacked him.
It just seemed evident to me that his mother didn't discipline or guide him enough to understand what was good and what was bad. My friend ended up dropping out of school and is now in jail.
While I do agree that parent discipline do factor into their child(ren's) moral development, I do not believe that it is the only determining factor. In my opinion, parent discipline do not guarantee that their child will be moral. In some cases, the exact opposite happen. While the child may acknowledge that a certain action is bad, he/she can still be influenced by other factors to perform that action. Such a factor includes peer pressure (from friends or colleagues), which is the most dominating factor. As humans, we yearn to be accepted by others. Our greatest fear is loneliness, we are afraid of not being love or like by others. Unfortunately, some people go through immoral means in order to prevent loneliness from happening.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with your statements. People know what is good and what is bad by actually having consequences for actions being made whether good or bad. That is why there is encouragement and also criticism. However, the friend going to jail and dropping out of college cannot be totally contributed to not being disciplined at that moment of the duck incident. There had to be numerous times of not being disciplined along with several other bad choices to lead to it.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you. I have had many friends and relatives who parents had not taught them right or wrong. They disrespected teachers and others and eventually dropped out of school. I think parents teaching their children the difference between right/ wrong or good/ bad plays out their entire life. Teaching your child morals is something that can be taught and it eventually trickles down to how they treat others and the outcome of their life. My mom always told me "everything starts at home" which is totally true. If you do not have a good home foundation or morals it can eventually effect your life for the long run.
ReplyDeleteI must say that you make a good point. Working at a school I can definitely tell which parents discipline their children and which ones don't. But I do agree with Shakayla. Sometimes no matter how much you discipline a child they still will end up doing the wrong things when they get older. It all goes back to what they listen to. Do they listen to reason or do they listen to their appetite? If someone only listens to their appetite that is when they get themselves into trouble. However, I do think parents have a responsibility to teach their children decent reasoning skills and without that education people are more likely to make poor decisions.
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